Strategies to cope

There is no right or wrong way to feel

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Remember there is no “right” or “wrong” way to feel. People react in different ways to trauma, so don’t tell yourself (or anyone else) what you should be thinking, feeling, or doing.

Don’t ignore your feelings — it will only slow recovery. It may seem better in the moment to avoid experiencing your emotions, but they exist whether you’re paying attention to them or not. Even intense feelings will pass if you simply allow yourself to feel what you feel.

Avoid obsessively reliving the traumatic event. Repetitious thinking can overwhelm your nervous system, making it harder to think clearly.

Partake in activities that keep your mind occupied (read, watch a movie, cook, play with your kids or pets if you have them), so you’re not dedicating all your energy and attention to the traumatic event.

Re-establish routine. There is comfort in the familiar. After a disaster, getting back— as much as possible — to your normal routine, will help you minimise traumatic stress, anxiety, and hopelessness. Even if your routine is disrupted, you can structure your day with regular times for eating, sleeping, spending time with family, and relaxing.

Put major life decisions on hold. Making big life decisions about home, work, or family while traumatised will only increase the stress in your life. If possible, try to wait until life has settled down, you’ve regained your emotional balance, and you’re better able to think clearly.

If symptoms do not resolve over time seek help from: